Parenting Perspective 

It is natural to feel disheartened when a child reverts to an old habit despite your best efforts. These moments can trigger frustration or a sense of failure. However, it is essential to recognise that relapses are a normal part of learning. Children often repeat old patterns when they are stressed, tired, or need connection. Viewing these instances as opportunities for guidance, rather than setbacks, is key to maintaining your own emotional balance. 

See Relapse as Learning 

Instead of seeing the repeated behaviour as a failure, reframe it as a signal that your child still needs support. You could say, ‘I notice this is tricky for us again. Let us think about how we can make it easier together’. This approach models patience and problem-solving, not criticism. 

Focus on Small Wins 

Focus on micro-progress rather than expecting perfection. Acknowledge any small improvement to reinforce positive change. Celebrating these tiny steps will boost your child’s confidence and your own morale, reminding you both that growth is a gradual process. 

Maintain Your Emotional Anchor 

When you feel frustrated, pause and take a mindful breath before you respond. Reflecting on your own triggers, such as stress or fatigue, helps prevent reactive responses that escalate tension.¹ Your calm consistency communicates reliability and stability to your child, making them feel more secure.² 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises patience, persistence, and trust in Allah Almighty, especially during periods of trial.³ A child’s relapse into old habits is not a sign of failure but an opportunity for you to exercise compassion, perseverance, and renewed guidance. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verses 286: 

‘ Allah (Almighty) does not place any burden on any human being except that which is within his capacity…’ 

This verse is a powerful reassurance that both you and your child are capable of enduring setbacks and learning from them. Maintaining steady guidance, even when it is difficult, aligns with this divine wisdom. 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 2521, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Indeed, Allah loves that when one of you does something, he perfects it.’ 

Perfecting a deed includes perfecting our patience and persistence as parents. By consistently modelling this dedication and celebrating small improvements, you embody the spirit of this hadith. Remaining steady and compassionate when old habits resurface fosters resilience in your child and prevents your own discouragement, allowing growth to continue in a supportive, faith-centred home.