Parenting Perspective 

Teaching Boundaries as Kindness, Not Distance 

Children often invade personal space without ill intent. They lean too close, hug suddenly, or tap repeatedly because they feel comfortable; it is not because they intend harm. The key is to teach that respecting body space is an act of care, not rejection. Begin early by naming the concept clearly: “Everyone has an invisible bubble around them called personal space. We show love and respect by keeping that space comfortable for others.” Practise this at home through role-play. Stand close and ask, “Does this feel too near or acceptable?” Then take a step back and say, “This feels better, does it not?” These physical examples help children recognise non-verbal cues. Reinforce with gentle reminders in public: “Let us give our friend some space so they can feel comfortable too.” Avoid shaming language such as, “Do not be clingy.” Instead, say, “Let us show kindness by giving them a little room.” Explain that space can also mean safety. Some children may be shy, tired, or highly sensitive, and giving them room shows empathy. Equally, teach your child to express their own boundaries politely: “I require a little space right now, please.” These early scripts protect both their confidence and the comfort of others. 

Modelling Respect and Affirming Awareness 

Children copy what they observe. Respect your child’s personal space first: knock before entering if they seem preoccupied or ask before adjusting their clothes in public. This mutual respect shows that boundaries operate both ways. Use stories and everyday scenarios to reinforce the lesson: in queues, classrooms, or mosques. Praise awareness openly: “You noticed your friend wanted space; that was thoughtful.” By linking empathy with social confidence, you raise a child who is both warm and considerate. 

Spiritual Insight 

Qur’anic Guidance on Modesty and Dignity 

Islam beautifully balances closeness with respect. Every believer is taught to honour others’ comfort and privacy—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 30: 

‘Say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) to the believing men to lower their gaze (upon forbidden things); and protect their private parts (with chastity); these actions shall help them (attain) piety; indeed, Allah (Almighty is All Cognisant of all of their actions.’ 

This verse highlights that respect begins with self-control. While it primarily refers to modesty, it also teaches the importance of guarding one’s conduct in the presence of others. Helping a child manage their body space is a gentle introduction to this spiritual discipline—acting with awareness, decency, and restraint even during play. 

Prophetic Teaching on Causing No Harm (La Darara) 

The Prophetic tradition explicitly warns against causing any discomfort or damage to others. 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 2341, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.’ 

This concise hadith lays a universal principle—La darara wa la dirara—that no one should cause physical or emotional discomfort to another. When your child learns to give others room and recognise when someone feels uneasy, they are practising this very Sunnah of avoiding harm. It builds awareness that every interaction carries responsibility before Allah Almighty. 

Turning Boundaries into Acts of Faith 

Before playdates or gatherings, remind your child: “Kindness means letting others feel safe around us.” Afterward, reflect: “You noticed when your friend stepped back; that was very caring.” Tie these reminders to faith: “Allah Almighty loves when we make people feel safe and respected.” In time, your child will understand that respecting personal space is not about rejection but compassion—a quiet way of saying, “You matter.” Through these small, mindful gestures, they embody Ihsan—the beauty of living gently, with the awareness that every movement and word can either comfort or discomfort a heart loved by Allah Almighty.