Parenting Perspective 

Explain the Impact on Others 

When a child takes things without asking, it is important to address the behaviour in a way that teaches respect for others’ belongings. Children may not fully understand the importance of asking for permission, so it is essential to explain the concepts of personal space and ownership. You might say that when they take someone’s belongings without asking, it can make the other person feel upset or uncomfortable. This helps the child to see beyond their own desires and to recognise the importance of considering the feelings of others. 

Reinforce and Praise Asking 

Encourage your child to ask for permission before taking something. It is important to praise them when they remember to do so, as this reinforces the idea that asking is a sign of respect. For example, you could say, ‘Thank you for asking before using that toy. It shows you respect other people’s things.’ This positive reinforcement will encourage your child to continue the behaviour and to develop a habit of asking before taking. 

Guide Them to Make it Right 

If your child takes something without asking, gently remind them of the rule. Guide them to return the item and encourage them to apologise. It is important to approach the situation calmly and avoid harsh punishment, as this may cause feelings of shame or guilt. Instead, focus on helping your child to learn from the situation. Over time, they will begin to understand that asking before taking something is a fundamental part of respecting others and maintaining good relationships. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, respecting the property and rights of others is a fundamental principle. Allah Almighty teaches us in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 188: 

‘And do not consume each other’s wealth inequitably, or present it (as a bribe) to the sovereign ruler, so that (the sovereign ruler may aid you) in consuming (further) wealth of the people inequitably, whilst you are fully aware (of your wrongful actions).’ 

This verse emphasises the importance of respecting others’ property and the consequences of taking what is not rightfully yours. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also stressed the importance of respect and fairness in all interactions. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 13, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.’ 

This Hadith highlights the importance of treating others with kindness and respect, which includes respecting their belongings. By teaching your child to ask before taking something, you are instilling the values of respect and consideration, which are deeply embedded in the teachings of Islam.