Parenting Perspective 

Connection, Not Competition 

It is normal for siblings to have different strengths when learning and using languages. One child might feel confident speaking in both languages, while another may prefer just one or struggle to find the right words. Try not to compare them; instead, you can notice what each child does well and praise their unique efforts. 

Create chances for siblings to help each other gently, such as reading simple books together, playing word games, or sharing stories in both languages. If one child naturally speaks more, you can remind them to give their sibling time to finish their sentences without interrupting. Keep family conversations balanced so that every child feels heard. Use short, clear words when you want both children to join in; for example, you can give instructions in both languages if that is needed. Be patient if they mix words or switch mid-sentence. Celebrate their small steps rather than expecting everyone to speak perfectly. Your warm support shows each child that their words are valued and that languages are for connection, not competition. 

Spiritual Insight 

An Act of Fairness 

Islam teaches us to protect the trust, fairness, and kindness within our families. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nisa (4), Verse 58: 

‘Indeed, Allah (Almighty) commands you to execute all trusts to their rightful owners; and when you (are asked) to judge between people, that you should judge with justice…’ 

This reminds you to be fair and gentle, especially when siblings have different abilities. Each child’s strengths and challenges are part of Allah Almighty’s perfect plan. 

Make it Easy 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ treated everyone’s unique qualities with respect, always encouraging balance and kindness. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6125, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Make things easy and do not make things difficult.’ 

When you guide siblings to support each other without competition, you are following this Sunnah. Make Dua that Allah Almighty places love and patience in their hearts, helping them to see their languages as gifts to be shared. Remind them that their words are a bridge between hearts and that helping one another is an act of worship.