Parenting Perspective 

Focus on Effort, Not Just Results 

Praising your child is a powerful way to build their confidence, but it must be sincere and focused on their effort, not just the final result. When you only praise perfect speech, your child may become afraid to try new words in case they make a mistake. Instead, it helps to notice the small steps: a new word attempted, a brave answer given, or a clear sentence spoken. 

Use specific praise like, ‘I love how you tried that tricky word,’ or ‘You spoke so clearly today.’ It is important to avoid comparing them to others and to encourage them to see progress as their own personal journey. Gentle physical encouragement, such as a smile, a hug, or a thumbs-up, also shows your child that you value their courage. Let your child hear your praise even when they stumble, so they know that making mistakes is safe in your care. This balance helps them to stay motivated and feel proud of their effort, not just the outcome. 

Spiritual Insight 

Sincere Effort Brings Guidance 

Islam teaches us to recognise and encourage good effort with warmth and sincerity. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ankaboot (29), Verse 69: 

‘And those people that endeavour (to please) Us (Allah Almighty); so, We (Allah Almighty) shall indeed, guide them (to those pathways) that lead to Us; and indeed, Allah (Almighty) is with those who are benevolent (in their actions).’ 

This verse shows that trying with a sincere heart brings help and reward from Allah Almighty, even if the journey is imperfect. 

Perfecting Their Upbringing 

It is recorded in Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith 3671, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Be kind to children and perfect in your upbringing of them.’ 

This Hadith Shareef reminds us that building a child’s confidence is part of a good upbringing. Praise should lift your child’s heart without making them fear losing your approval. You can thank Allah Almighty in front of your child for every small step they take. Saying ‘Alhamdulillah’ for their progress shows that the effort itself is a gift. This gentle approach keeps your praise honest, loving, and rooted in faith.