Parenting Perspective 

A Respectful and Comfortable Environment 

Talking about gender separation at events without causing shame requires sensitivity and a focus on the positive aspects of the practice. You can start by explaining to your child that gender separation is not about making one gender feel inferior but is part of creating a respectful and comfortable environment. You might say, ‘In some events, men and women are in separate spaces to ensure that everyone feels comfortable and that the event can focus on what is important, whether that is worship, learning, or socialising.’ 

You should be sure to also acknowledge that gender separation can vary depending on cultural and personal preferences, and that Islam encourages respect for all practices that maintain modesty. ‘Sometimes, events are organised this way because it helps people to focus and to feel respected. It is important to understand that this is not about judging anyone, but about creating an atmosphere of respect.’ 

A Sign of Maturity 

Finally, you can teach your child that having respect for these practices is a sign of maturity and understanding. ‘We may have different practices but respecting them shows that we understand the values of respect and modesty that Islam teaches.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, gender separation is often seen as a means of protecting modesty and of ensuring that interactions remain respectful and focused. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 31: 

‘And say (O Prophet Muhammad ﷺ) to the women who are believers; to lower their gaze (upon forbidden things); and protect their private parts (with chastity); and not to display their beauty except that which is apparent (for functionality e.g. eyes, hands); and let them place their head veils over their upper bodies….’ 

This verse illustrates the importance of modesty and privacy in interactions between genders. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also demonstrated the importance of modesty and respect in all aspects of life. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith emphasises that the value of interactions between men and women is not diminished by separation but is, in fact, enhanced by mutual respect and dignity. By teaching your child to view gender separation at events as a means of showing respect, you are aligning them with the Islamic values of modesty, respect, and consideration for others.