Parenting Perspective 

Acknowledge Their Feelings 

If your child is hiding things that they should be sharing, it is important to address the behaviour with understanding, empathy, and guidance. You can start by acknowledging that sharing can sometimes be difficult, especially if they feel that their belongings are important to them. You might say, ‘I understand that it can be hard to share things that are special to you, but we are a family, and it is important to share so that everyone feels included and respected.’ 

Model Generosity 

It is important to model sharing behaviour yourself, as children often learn by observing their parents. Make sure to demonstrate how you share with others, whether it is with your spouse, your friends, or your colleagues. You could say, ‘I always try to share with others because it makes them feel happy, and it brings us closer together as a family.’ 

Praise and Reinforce 

When your child does decide to share, you should praise them for their willingness to be generous. For example, ‘I am really proud of you for sharing your toys with your sibling. You showed great kindness and respect today.’ This positive reinforcement will help them to develop a mindset that values sharing and generosity. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, sharing is a sign of generosity, kindness, and selflessness, qualities that are highly valued. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hashar (59), Verse 9: 

‘And as for those people who settled their homes (in Madinah Al Munawwarah) and (adopted) the faith before them; they love those people who emigrated to them; and did not harbour (any resentments) in their conscience, desiring what was given (to others); and giving preference over themselves, even though they were impecunious themselves….’ 

This verse highlights the importance of sharing and of prioritising the needs of others. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also emphasised the importance of generosity and sharing. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith shows that sharing and caring for others, especially within the family, are core Islamic values. By teaching your child to share, you are helping them to embrace these values of kindness, generosity, and compassion.