Parenting Perspective 

Model the Behaviour Yourself 

Teaching your child to be polite and respectful in public is an important part of their social development and sets the foundation for strong interpersonal relationships. You can start by modelling the behaviour you want to see in your child. Children learn a great deal by observing how their parents behave, so be sure to demonstrate polite and respectful behaviour when you are interacting with others. For example, when you speak to shop assistants, waiting staff, or even strangers, always use ‘please,’ ‘thank you,’ and ‘excuse me.’ 

Explain Why Politeness Matters 

It is also important to explain to your child why politeness and respect are important. Let them know that good manners make others feel valued and appreciated. You might say, ‘When you speak kindly to others, it shows that you care about their feelings and respect them.’ This helps them to understand that politeness is not just about saying the right words, but also about how they treat others with kindness and consideration. 

Practice Through Role-Play 

Role-playing is another effective strategy. You can create scenarios where your child can practise polite behaviour in different situations, such as greeting someone, saying thank you, or offering assistance. It is helpful to praise them when they display good manners, as this reinforces that respectful behaviour is not only expected but is also appreciated by others. Encourage your child to practise politeness even when they are frustrated or upset. You can teach them to take deep breaths or to count to ten if they feel the urge to react rudely. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, politeness and respect for others are core values. Allah Almighty encourages us in the noble Quran to treat others with kindness and consideration. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ahzaab (33), Verse 70: 

‘O those of you, who are believers, seek piety from Allah (Almighty) and always speak with words of blatant accuracy.’ 

This verse teaches us that we must always choose our words carefully and act with integrity, whether we are in private or in public. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also emphasised the importance of good manners. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith reminds us that kindness and respect should begin in the home but should extend to all our interactions, including those in public. By guiding your child to be polite and respectful, you are teaching them to embody the values of Islam, fostering strong relationships and creating a positive environment wherever they go.