Parenting Perspective 

Set Clear Boundaries 

Handling teasing between siblings about what is ‘girly’ or ‘boyish’ requires setting clear boundaries, reinforcing respect, and teaching them that such labels are unhelpful and limiting. You can start by talking to your children about why such teasing is hurtful. For example, ‘When you call something “girly” or “boyish,” you are putting people into boxes based on their gender. That is not fair, because everyone has the right to enjoy whatever activities they like, regardless of whether they are traditionally seen as being “for boys” or “for girls.”’ 

Encourage Mutual Support 

Teach your children that true strength comes from respecting the choices of others and from treating everyone with kindness. You could say, ‘Instead of teasing, you should encourage each other’s interests. A brother or a sister who supports the other’s hobbies shows real strength and maturity.’ 

Intervene and Reinforce Values 

If the teasing continues, you should intervene and address it with the children involved, reminding them of the importance of treating one another with respect and kindness. It is also important to model non-judgemental behaviour in your own actions. When your children see you respecting everyone’s choices and not reinforcing gendered stereotypes, they will be more likely to adopt the same attitude. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, equality and respect for all individuals, regardless of their gender, are core values. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 11: 

‘Those of you who are believers, do not let a nation ridicule another nation, as perhaps it may be that they are better than them….’ 

This verse teaches us that mocking or belittling others based on their gender or any other characteristic is unacceptable in Islam. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also exemplified respect for all people, regardless of their gender or interests. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith reinforces that true strength and goodness come from how we treat others, including our siblings. By teaching your children to respect each other’s interests and not to tease them based on outdated gender roles, you are helping them to live according to these Islamic values of equality, respect, and kindness.