Parenting Perspective 

Set Clear Expectations 

Helping your child to admit when they break screen rules is crucial in teaching them honesty, responsibility, and accountability. You can start by setting clear, reasonable expectations for screen time and digital activities. Discuss the rules together, so your child understands what is acceptable and what is not. You might say, ‘We agreed that you would only use your tablet for an hour each day. If you want more time, you need to ask me first.’ 

Approach the Situation Calmly 

When your child breaks the rules, it is important to approach the situation calmly and without anger. Instead of focusing on punishment, you should emphasise the importance of honesty. You could say, ‘I noticed you used the tablet for longer than we agreed. Can you tell me what happened?’ This encourages your child to admit their actions openly, without the fear of harsh consequences. Listen to their side of the story, as there may be underlying reasons, such as peer pressure, boredom, or difficulty managing their time. 

Teach That Honesty is a Strength 

Teach your child that admitting mistakes is a part of growing and learning. Explain that honesty is important, and that even though there will be consequences for breaking the rules, coming forward shows maturity. For example, you can say, ‘I understand you broke the screen rule, but I appreciate that you are being honest with me. Let us work together to figure out how we can stick to the rules next time.’ By offering guidance and support, you help your child to feel empowered to make better decisions in the future. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, honesty and accountability are highly valued. Allah Almighty teaches us in the noble Quran at Surah Al Baqarah (2), Verse 42: 

‘And do not mix the truth with falsehood, and do not conceal the truth, and you are fully aware (of what you are doing).’ 

This verse highlights the importance of speaking the truth and being accountable for our actions, even when it is difficult. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also emphasised the importance of truthfulness. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 6594, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise.’ 

This Hadith serves as a reminder that honesty is a core principle in Islam. By teaching your child to admit when they break the rules, you are helping them to align their actions with the teachings of Islam, fostering integrity, trust, and self-responsibility.