Parenting Perspective 

Explain the ‘Why’ Behind the Rule 

When a child breaks house rules, it is crucial to help them understand why the rule is in place and how their actions affect others. Often, children may not fully grasp the reasons behind a rule, so it is important to explain it clearly. For example, if your child leaves their toys around the house, you could explain that leaving toys on the floor could cause someone to trip and get hurt. By making the consequences clear, your child will begin to see that house rules are meant to protect everyone and maintain order. 

Foster Empathy 

Rather than focusing solely on punishment, it is helpful to engage your child in a conversation about the impact of their actions. Ask them how they think others might feel when the rules are broken. For example, you could ask, ‘How would you feel if you were unable to find your favourite toy because it was left somewhere else?’ This encourages your child to reflect on the consequences of their actions, fostering empathy and helping them to understand the bigger picture. 

Involve Them in Finding Solutions 

It is also important to involve your child in finding solutions when rules are broken. If they forget to put their toys away, ask them what they can do next time to remember. This gives them a sense of responsibility and ownership over their actions. Praise your child when they follow the rules and acknowledge their efforts to make things right. Positive reinforcement will encourage them to continue respecting the house rules. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, respect for rules and boundaries is highly valued as it promotes harmony and discipline. The noble Quran teaches the importance of maintaining order and avoiding excess. In Surah Al Aa’raaf (7), Verse 31, Allah Almighty states: 

‘O children of Adam, take (appropriate) measures to beautify yourself (before you appear) at any place of worship (for Prayer); and eat and drink and do not be extravagant (wasteful), as indeed, He (Allah Almighty) does not like extravagance.’ 

This verse reminds us that moderation and respect for limits are essential in all aspects of life, including within the home. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also placed great emphasis on discipline and respect in family life. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith underscores the importance of creating a disciplined and respectful environment at home. By teaching your child to follow house rules, you are instilling the values of responsibility, respect, and care for others, which are foundational to Islam.