Parenting Perspective 

A Team Mindset and Gentle Routines 

When one parent does not speak the home language, many families worry that their children will lose touch with it. The good news is that it is possible to keep your heritage language alive with clear, kind routines and a team mindset. Talk openly with your spouse about why this language matters, for family ties, cultural heritage, and a connection to Islamic knowledge. 

Create simple daily moments for using your home language, such as during bedtime stories, mealtime conversations, making Dua before sleeping, or on phone calls with grandparents. Keep it light so your child does not feel forced. The parent who speaks the heritage language can use it naturally and consistently, while the other parent can show respect by encouraging the child’s effort and praising their small steps. It is helpful to avoid switching languages mid-sentence too often, as this can sometimes confuse young children. Instead, you can have gentle boundaries; for example, one parent uses English, while the other mainly uses the heritage language. Be patient if your child mixes words or prefers one language for certain topics. 

Spiritual Insight 

A Sign of Allah’s Wisdom 

Islam honours every blessing that strengthens family ties and protects our identity, and language is one of these blessings. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous….’ 

This verse reminds us that our languages and cultures are signs of Allah Almighty’s wisdom, not barriers. 

A Shared Responsibility 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1705, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Every one of you is a shepherd and every one of you is responsible for his flock.’ 

This Hadith Shareef shows that it is our duty to guide our children with care, including how they use their words. Make Dua that Allah Almighty blesses your efforts to preserve this trust. Even if one parent does not speak the language, their encouragement still matters. Small phrases like ‘Well done for trying’ or listening to your child recite a Surah in Arabic can keep the language meaningful. With patience and sincere intention, your child will grow up holding both languages with confidence and gratitude, InshaAllah.