Parenting Perspective 

Model Equality in Action 

Teaching your daughter that her contributions are valuable in all areas of life, including those outside the kitchen, starts with modelling equality in your own actions. You can encourage her to be involved in a variety of tasks, such as gardening, organising, or even managing household finances. You might say, ‘Just as taking care of the kitchen is important, there are many other tasks at home where you can help, like tidying the garden or arranging the house.’ This normalises the idea that responsibilities in the home are shared, regardless of gender. 

Reinforce Her Capability 

It is important to reinforce that she is just as capable as anyone else in contributing to various practical tasks. If she shows an interest in activities like fixing things, doing the laundry, or helping with the car, you can provide her with the support and tools to do so. ‘I can teach you how to organise the garage; it is a useful skill that will serve you well in life.’ This empowers her to see herself as capable in areas that are sometimes stereotyped as masculine. 

Praise Her Efforts 

Praise her efforts when she participates in practical tasks. ‘You did a great job organising the bookshelf! You can help with anything around the house, and your skills are really valuable.’ This reinforces her confidence and encourages her to continue contributing to all areas of family life. Finally, you can teach her that Islam values every individual’s contribution, and that her actions, whether in the kitchen or elsewhere, are important for the well-being of the family. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, both men and women are equally valued for their contributions, regardless of the task at hand. Allah Almighty teaches us in the noble Quran at Surah Al Ahzaab (33), Verse 35: 

‘Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women; and the believing men and believing women… and the men who remember Allah (Almighty) excessively and women who also remember (Allah Almighty excessively); Allah (Almighty) has prepared for all of them redemption and a great reward.’ 

This verse highlights that both men and women have an equal potential for reward, based on their deeds and their devotion. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also emphasised the importance of contributing to household tasks, regardless of gender. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith encourages both boys and girls to contribute to family life in ways that reflect their character and responsibility, regardless of societal stereotypes. By teaching your daughter that she can contribute to practical tasks outside the kitchen, you are instilling the Islamic values of equality, responsibility, and service.