Parenting Perspective 

Build a Collaborative Relationship 

Working with teachers to avoid stereotypes in the classroom involves building a collaborative relationship with the school and advocating for an inclusive and fair learning environment. You can start by having an open discussion with your child’s teacher about your concerns. It is helpful to approach the conversation in a positive and constructive manner, with a focus on supporting both boys and girls equally. You might say, ‘I would love to work together to ensure that all students have equal opportunities in the classroom, regardless of gender.’ 

Encourage a Balanced Environment 

Encourage the teacher to create a balanced classroom environment where all students are encouraged to participate equally in every subject, whether it is traditionally seen as being ‘for boys’ or ‘for girls.’ This could involve suggesting that both boys and girls are given equal opportunities in activities like maths, science, the arts, or sports. You could say, ‘It would be great if both boys and girls could be equally encouraged to participate in all areas, as this would benefit everyone in developing a diverse range of skills.’ 

Suggest Diverse Role Models 

Additionally, you could suggest providing both male and female role models for the students in subjects like leadership, maths, or science. ‘It would be beneficial for the students to see both male and female role models who excel in various fields, as it helps them to realise that gender is not a barrier to achieving success in any area.’ This approach helps to break down stereotypes and promotes inclusivity. Lastly, make sure to keep the lines of communication open with the teacher, so that you can continue to work together to address any emerging issues or concerns. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, equality in education and in opportunities is emphasised for both genders. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Alaq (96), Verse 1-5: 

‘Read in the name of your Sustainer, Who has created you. Created mankind from a coagulated germ cell. Read, and your Sustainer is the Most Magnanimous. The One who taught through the pen (of Light, which wrote all of the destiny of creation). Taught mankind all that which he does not know.’ 

This verse stresses the importance of education for everyone, regardless of gender, as both boys and girls are equally capable of gaining knowledge and of contributing to society. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also supported the idea of equal education for all. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 3587, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best of you are those who are the best to their families.’ 

This Hadith highlights the importance of both men and women engaging in learning and contributing to the family and to society. By working with teachers to avoid stereotypes and to promote equal educational opportunities, you are helping your child to grow in a way that aligns with the Islamic values of fairness, knowledge, and respect.