Parenting Perspective 

For many teens, parties feel like freedom; a place to relax, bond, and belong. But safety fades fast when small cues are ignored. Your goal is to build your child’s early warning system so they recognise when a gathering shifts from fun to danger. Teach them this principle: when the values of a place change, so should your location. 

Strengthen Instinct Over Image 

Explain that real danger rarely shouts. It whispers through small discomforts, such as someone hiding bottles, locking doors, turning off lights, or mocking modest boundaries. Tell your child: ‘If your stomach knots or your conscience feels loud, that is Allah Almighty’s mercy, so listen to it.’ Intuition is not fear; it is protection. 

Spot the Red Flags Early 

Help them memorise the warning signs that a situation is becoming unsafe. 

• Alcohol, drugs, or vaping appear suddenly. 

• Guests become aggressive, overly flirtatious, or careless. 

• Someone starts recording others without their consent. 

• There is pressure to ‘just chill,’ ‘stay late,’ or ‘try it once.’ 

• Friends mock anyone who chooses to leave or to pray. 

If two or more of these signs are present, it is time to step back. 

The Exit Plan: Pause, Excuse, Leave 

Teach your child a simple, three-step process for leaving any uncomfortable situation. 

• Pause: Stop, breathe, and assess the situation. Do not freeze or argue. 

• Excuse: Calmly say, ‘I need to make a call,’ or ‘I am feeling light-headed, so I am heading home.’ 

• Leave: Move to a well-lit, open area like a shop, bus stop, or nearby mosque, and message your family’s pre-agreed code word. You can then call them back immediately with a reason to collect them. 

Remind your child that embarrassment is recoverable, but harm is not. Politeness should never outweigh personal safety. 

Role-Play for Readiness 

Practise realistic pressure scenarios, such as someone saying, “Just one sip,” “You are ruining the vibe,” or “Everyone is staying.” You can act as the persuader while your child practises leaving. After each round, discuss what happened: Which cue appeared first? What excuse worked best? Praise their calm response and quick thinking. Confidence grows with rehearsal. 

Keep the Mercy Door Open 

Assure them that if they ever stay too long or make a mistake, they can still call home for help. Safety must always come before blame. A parent who listens without fury becomes their child’s first refuge, not their last resort. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam calls believers to protect their hearts, bodies, and dignity. When gatherings turn indecent, stepping away is a form of faith, not an act of fear. Leaving quietly is not an act of judgment; it is an act of self-respect guided by conscience. 

From the Noble Quran 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al An’aam (6), Verses 68: 

‘And whenever you observe those people who engage in (blasphemous and frivolous) discourse in regard to Our Signs (of the infinite truth), then abstain from them until they start a discourse on other subjects; and if the Satan was to cause you to forget (their blasphemous and frivolous discourse), then after you have remembered, do not continue to sit with those people who are imbued in the darkness (of their ignorance and immorality).’ 

This verse models true wisdom: do not argue, just leave. When a place or group begins to dishonour what is right, a quiet departure is the most faithful response. Teach your child to see leaving as a strength, as they are protecting their soul, not ruining the fun. 

From the Teachings of the Holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1977, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The believer is not the one who taunts, curses, speaks obscenely, or uses foul language.’ 

This Hadith describes the atmosphere a believer should seek to belong to, which is one free of indecency and insult. If a party’s tone shifts toward mockery, profanity, or immorality, that is the signal to walk away. Staying only normalises what Islam teaches us to resist. 

Remind your child that modesty, self-control, and a timely exit are signs of spiritual maturity. Each time they recognise an unsafe scene and choose to leave with dignity, they are living out Prophetic guidance by protecting their faith, their safety, and their honour in the eyes of Allah Almighty. Walking away early is not losing the night; it is saving the light within.