Parenting Perspective 

Practice Simple, Polite Phrases 

Misunderstandings can happen easily for children who are learning to speak more than one language. Sometimes they might use the wrong word, or a friend may not understand them. You can teach your child that this is normal and is nothing to feel embarrassed about. Practise simple phrases they can use when things get confusing, like, ‘Sorry, I meant to say…’ or ‘Can I say that again?’ 

You can role-play these moments at home, so they feel calmer when it happens for real. Remind your child that speaking kindly, even when they feel frustrated, keeps friendships strong. If they misunderstand someone else, show them how to ask politely, ‘Could you explain that, please?’ Praise your child when they handle mix-ups with good manners instead of anger. This teaches them that using gentle words and staying patient is more important than always being right. Over time, your calm support will help your child to trust that their mistakes are just steps on the path to becoming a clear and confident speaker. 

Spiritual Insight 

Words That Bring Hearts Together 

Islam guides us to handle misunderstandings with patience, mercy, and wise speech. Allah Almighty reminds us to respond with words that bring hearts together. Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Israa (17), Verse 53: 

‘And informed My servants that they should speak in only the most politest manner (when they speak to the extremists in disbelief); indeed, Satan (is always ready) to infuse anarchy between them…’ 

This verse shows that gentle words can prevent arguments and heal small mistakes. 

The Prophetic Example 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed us how to handle misunderstandings with kindness. He would clarify things calmly and forgive mistakes quickly. It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 1921, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘He is not one of us who does not have mercy on our young and respect for our elders.’ 

When you teach your child to respond to confusion with good manners, you are helping them to follow this, Sunnah. Make Dua that Allah Almighty guides your child’s tongue towards truth and calm speech. Remind them that misunderstandings are not failures; they are chances to practise Sabr, use clear words, and develop good character.