Parenting Perspective 

Permission and Personal Boundaries 

Helping siblings navigate personal property is a vital part of a peaceful home. Borrowing is not an automatic right because children share a family bond. You can guide them to understand that belongings are a responsibility. A fair rule is that permission must always be sought before anything is taken. This simple act of asking creates a culture of mutual respect. It teaches the borrower that the item belongs to someone else. It gives the owner the right to say no without feeling any guilt. Encourage a conversation about which specific items are off limits. Some toys are too precious to share. When children know boundaries are respected, they are more willing to be generous with other things. This clarity prevents arguments. You are teaching them that property is a trust. 

Care and Timely Returns 

Another rule involves the condition of the borrowed item.¹ If a sibling borrows a toy, they must return it in the same state. Explain that if something is broken, the borrower is responsible for fixing or replacing it immediately. This is a practical lesson in accountability and adulthood. It helps children understand that borrowing is a temporary transfer of care. You can suggest a specific time for the item to be returned. A clear deadline prevents anxiety for the owner. If a child forgets to return items, they might lose the privilege of borrowing for a short duration. This result is a natural consequence of failing to meet a commitment. These discussions help your children build much stronger bonds. They learn that fair rules protect everyone. 

Spiritual Insight 

Faith provides a foundation for understanding justice and the rights of others.² Every individual has a right to their possessions. Taking something without consent is serious. We are taught that respect for property is a sign of a deep connection to Allah Almighty. 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Nisa (4), Verse 58: 

‘Indeed, Allah Almighty commands you to render trusts to whom they are due’ 

This reminds us that we are responsible for items in our care. It teaches children that justice is found in respecting the rights of others to their belongings. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 2452, that holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘It is not lawful for a person to take the property of his brother without his consent.’ 

This teaches us that permission is the foundation of all transactions. It reinforces that we must always respect what belongs to others around them. Guiding your children through these challenges helps them develop into responsible adults. You are providing tools to manage relationships with honesty and integrity. This fairness in the home creates an environment where everyone feels secure. As they grow, these lessons in sharing will translate into respect for the wider community. You should remain a patient guide as they learn these values over the years. Consistency is the most important element in making these rules stick. When children see the benefits of fair borrowing, they become more trusting of one another. This strengthens the sibling bond and fosters a lasting sense of peace in your family. Every action builds trust and teaches empathy. You are helping them become kind. Their growth is a reward. Stay firm. Good habits start early. Respect is key.