Parenting Perspective 

Explain and Model Respect 

Teaching a child to respect other people’s privacy and belongings is an important part of their social development. Children, especially younger ones, often do not fully understand the concepts of personal space and ownership. The key to teaching this respect is consistency and setting clear boundaries. You can begin by explaining to your child that everyone has things that are personal to them, whether it is their room, their belongings, or their time. You might say, ‘Just as you like to have your own things, others also have the right to keep their belongings private.’ 

To reinforce this lesson, it is essential to model respectful behaviour yourself. Show your child how you respect the privacy and belongings of others, such as by knocking on a door before entering or by asking for permission before using something that is not yours. Children learn by observing their parents, so modelling the behaviour you wish to see is crucial. 

Correct Gently and Consistently 

If your child takes something without permission or invades someone’s personal space, calmly explain why this behaviour is inappropriate. For example, ‘It is important to ask before using someone else’s things. They may not be ready to share it with you right now.’ Encourage your child to apologise if they have crossed a boundary and help them to understand the importance of showing respect through their actions. Praise them when they ask for permission or respect others’ privacy, as positive reinforcement helps to solidify good behaviour. 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, respecting the privacy and belongings of others is a fundamental principle. The noble Quran teaches the importance of respecting personal boundaries. In Surah Al Noor (24), Verse 27, Allah Almighty states: 

‘O those of you who are believers, do not enter houses (of other people) except your own homes; unless you have permission from them….’ 

This verse illustrates that even in the simplest of actions, respect for privacy is essential. Teaching your child to follow this principle aligns their behaviour with the Islamic values of respect and kindness. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also provided guidance on respecting others. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 7098, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Do not harm others or repay evil with evil.’ 

This Hadith underscores the importance of showing respect in our interactions with others, including respecting their personal space and belongings. By teaching your child to ask for permission and to respect others’ privacy, you are instilling in them a key component of good character, in line with the teachings of Islam.