Parenting Perspective 

A Gentle, Balanced Approach 

Many parents feel unsure whether to help their child build spoken Arabic skills first or to focus on Quran memorisation. The truth is, both have their place and can support each other if they are approached gently. For young children, it is best to start with what feels natural and age-appropriate. Memorising short Surahs and simple verses can come early because children have an amazing ability to absorb sounds and rhythms. 

At the same time, teaching them everyday spoken Arabic words—like greetings, family names, or words for food and daily tasks—helps them to see Arabic as a living language, not just something to recite. Use small steps: repeat Quranic phrases at prayer times and use basic spoken Arabic during play or chores. This way, your child does not feel overwhelmed or forced. They learn that the noble Quran is precious and reciting it is an act of worship, while spoken Arabic is useful for daily life. Balancing both builds a foundation where your child feels connected to their faith and confident using words outside of memorisation. 

Spiritual Insight 

Memorisation and Understanding 

Islam beautifully weaves together memorisation and understanding. Both are valued, and both feed the heart when done with care. Allah Almighty reminds us of the blessing of the noble Quran in the noble Quran at Surah Al Qamar (54), Verse 17: 

‘And indeed, We have made the Quran an easy (source of) reflection, is there anyone who will realise from it?’ 

This verse comforts parents who worry about where to begin. Allah Almighty Himself has made His words easy to remember; you need only to guide your child step by step. 

A Journey of Ibadah 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed his companions how to balance memorising the noble Quran and reflecting on its meaning. It is recorded in Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5027, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘The best among you are those who learn the Quran and teach it.’ 

Spoken Arabic helps your child to recognise words they hear in Salah, Quran recitation, and Duas, which deepens their understanding. By teaching both gently, you protect your child from seeing the Quran as a chore and spoken Arabic as too difficult. Keep lessons short, joyful, and full of praise. Remind your child that every small verse they memorise and every new word they speak is part of their journey of Ibadah.