Parenting Perspective 

After cycles of punishment, children often feel a mix of guilt, fear, and fatigue. They need a clean slate, an opportunity to move forward without lingering resentment. A structured ‘reset’ routine helps signal that a mistake does not define the relationship and that each day brings a new chance for connection. 

End the Day with Closure 

Take a few minutes at the end of the day to acknowledge what happened calmly, without blame. This separates the behaviour from your child’s identity and reinforces that your love is constant. A simple script can be very powerful: ‘Today had its challenges, but tomorrow is a fresh start for us’. This offers closure and lets your child go to sleep feeling secure. 

Introduce a Predictable Reset Ritual 

Create a small, consistent practice that signals renewal and safety. This could be sharing a short story, saying something you appreciate about each other, or doing a calming activity together before bed. Predictable rituals build emotional safety, showing your child that despite mistakes, your bond remains stable and dependable. This is the foundation for them to feel safe enough to learn and grow. 

Reinforce Positive Connection 

Following the reset, be intentional about creating brief moments of positive connection. This could mean actively listening to their thoughts, engaging in a few minutes of shared play, or guiding them through a task with encouragement. This pattern gradually transforms the dynamic from one based on punishment to one built on proactive, nurturing guidance. 

Spiritual Insight 

Islam emphasises mercy, forgiveness, and the renewal of relationships. Just as Allah Almighty forgives repeatedly, parents can mirror this divine quality by allowing each day to begin anew, reinforcing trust and emotional security. 

The Mercy of a New Beginning 

Allah Almighty states in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hashar (59), Verses 10: 

‘And those people that came after them, they say: “Our Sustainer, forgive us and our brothers and those people that preceded us in faith; and do not place any jealousy in our hearts for those people who are believers; Our Sustainer, indeed, you are the Most Considerate and Most Merciful”.‘ 

This prayer teaches us to actively seek forgiveness and let go of resentment. By creating a ‘reset’ routine, parents help their children practise this principle, cleansing their hearts and allowing them to start fresh without the weight of past mistakes. 

The Honour in Forgiveness 

It is recorded in Jami Tirmidhi, Hadith 3470, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: 

‘Whoever forgives and seeks reconciliation, Allah will increase his honour and mercy…’ 

This hadith highlights the strength and virtue in forgiveness. When parents initiate a reset, they are not being weak; they are modelling one of the most honourable and merciful actions. This teaches children that forgiveness is a source of strength and a key to maintaining loving, respectful relationships.