Parenting Perspective 

Discuss and Acknowledge 

If your child is copying gendered stereotypes they have seen online, it is important to address the situation with understanding and guidance, ensuring they understand the difference between what they see online and the values you want to instil in them. You can start by acknowledging the behaviour and gently discussing why such stereotypes are problematic. You might say, ‘I understand that you see certain things online, but those gendered ideas can limit your potential and how you see others. Islam teaches us to treat everyone equally, regardless of their gender.’ 

Encourage Critical Thinking 

Encourage your child to critically evaluate the content they consume, helping them to understand that not everything online represents reality or aligns with their values. You could explain, ‘Not everything you see on the internet is true, and not everything aligns with what we believe in Islam. We should always think about whether something is respectful, kind, and true before we follow it.’ 

Use Positive Examples 

You can use real-life examples to illustrate the harm of gender stereotypes. Explain that both boys and girls can be strong, creative, and successful in various fields, regardless of societal expectations. ‘You can be whatever you want, regardless of whether society thinks it is ‘for boys’ or ‘for girls.’ Islam teaches us to use our strengths to serve Allah and to help others, no matter who we are.’ 

Spiritual Insight 

In Islam, the concept of gender equality is clearly emphasised, and stereotypes that limit potential based on gender are not supported. Allah Almighty says in the noble Quran at Surah Al Hujuraat (49), Verse 13: 

‘O mankind, indeed, We (Allah Almighty) have created you all from one man and one woman; and placed you amongst various nations and tribes for your introduction to each other; indeed, the best of you in the judgement of Allah (Almighty) is the one who is most virtuous; indeed, Allah (Almighty) is the Omniscient, the all Cognisant.’ 

This verse reminds us that our worth and identity are based on our righteousness, not on our gender, and that all people should be treated equally. 

The holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ also demonstrated the importance of equality between men and women. It is recorded in Sunan Abi Dawood, Hadith 3252, that the holy Prophet Muhammad ﷺ stated: 

‘Speak the truth, even if it is bitter.’ 

This Hadith highlights the importance of living truthfully and without the constraints of limiting stereotypes. By teaching your child to reject gendered stereotypes, you are helping them to embrace the Islamic values of respect, fairness, and equality.